011: Three Little Words That Can Mess up Your Life (Part 3) — Want

Today’s topic is about the word “want.” Even though we spent the last two episodes talking about how having preferences is a healthy alternative to imposing “shoulds” or “needs” upon ourselves. I present here three reasons why we fall into some thinking traps when we use the word “want.” Those reasons are: We don’t reallyContinue reading “011: Three Little Words That Can Mess up Your Life (Part 3) — Want”

010: Three Little Words That Can Mess up Your Life (Part 2) — Need

In this second part of a miniseries on the words we say to ourselves that create tension and distress, today’s word is “Need.” Today we talk about: The psychological theories of needs, which are in fact theories of human motivation. Byron Katie’s radical approach to needs. Buddhist notions of taṇhā (thirst) and chanda (wholesome desire).Continue reading “010: Three Little Words That Can Mess up Your Life (Part 2) — Need”